You don’t need a new year, for a brand new start

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I know you can’t wait to count down those seconds to January 2017.

You have a list ready of all the new amazing things that you’re planning to do this year, right?

You’re excited, motivated, thrilled and just overjoyed that you’re about to start the year with so much enthusiasm.

It’s midnight, you have your list and your enthusiasm. You welcome the new year with a spirit-lift.

The first day starts off with a bang; you’ve joined a gym, you’re beginning a new business venture. Woohoo!! You feel confident, fulfilled and just happier. But a few days in and all that motivation comes crashing down. Why?


It all begins with intention

Research shows that only 8% of people who make New Year’s resolution, are able to achieve their goals. I’m guessing 92% of the people who failed to achieve their goals started with the wrong intention.

As Muslims, we begin most things with Bismillah (In the Name of Allah), and we aim to always renew our intention before beginning an action.

The Prophet sallahu alayhi wasallam said;

“Verily actions are judged by their intention”. (Bukhari and Muslim).

So when you joined that gym as soon as the clock struck midnight; was it on a whim? Was it just to check the box on your ‘to do list’? What was the real motive behind joining a gym?

When you break down your intention you really get to the focal point of why you do certain things, rather than making a meaningless list, that you’ll probably throw away after a couple of days.

So why did you join a gym? Of course to lose weight (unless you only joined to use the steam room).

Try this; before going to the gym ask yourself why? Remind yourself that you’re doing it to become fit and healthy, or to stay in shape. If you renew your intention before any action, you’re more likely to stick to it.


Start now

Right from the start ‘resolutions’ have failure and procrastination built into it. Although we start with good intentions, part of the problem is that we set unrealistic goals, with the assumption that we will be a completely new and different person every year. To top it off, the problem is further exacerbated when we hear about the flamboyant goals of our friends. It thus becomes a competition rather than an actual chance for self-development.

However, despite these connotations it’s never too late to start now. In reality, change happens in small steps over time.

With New Year resolutions we expect ourselves to change as soon as it hits midnight. Like Cinderella at the ball, we race against time instead of taking our time. After a few unsuccessful attempts at achieving our goals, we are struck with a heightened feeling of failure and thus discouraged from setting goals, later on in life.

So if you want to do something,  I urge you to do it now.  Start now. Don’t wait. Even if it’s something as small as making sure you wash the dishes before you go to bed, do it. And then celebrate it. Do a victory dance, put a big fat line and cross it off your ‘to do list’. But most of all, be proud of that achievement no matter how small it is. 


Goals vs values

This is an area which is often misconstrued and causes further anxiety in people. When we say ‘goal’ our subconscious mind quickly tries to find something that is attainable. It looks for something tangible, specific and achievable. So if you say ‘my goal is to become a millionaire’, your subconscious automatically goes into one of your filing cabinets, at the back of your brain, and pulls out a picture of you rolling around in lots of money, in a big house, on an island in the Maldives. You pictured it right?

There’s nothing wrong with having that picture in mind. The problem arises when you can’t achieve that goal, and be that happy person rolling around in money. When you experience failure you are more than likely to feel unfulfilled, undervalued or simply not worthy of being that person you imagined.

However if you simply change the way you value something then your outlook on your future, seems that much more attainable.

So instead of saying “I want to be a millionaire” you can rephrase and say “I want to live a life without financial worries”. Sound better? Instead of a having a fixed goal, you change what you value. In this case, money.

Values are broader and imply moment to moment decisions. Therefore you’re not stressing over a time frame and schedules, because values are much deeper than that.


Secrets of success

People naturally do more of what makes them feel good, which I like to call good habits. Good habits are what make you successful. If you’re not doing something over and over again, then chances are you, don’t take it seriously and will just revert to feelings of failure and back to dreaming of your goals. Dreaming about goals is one thing, but acting upon them is what makes you successful.

This reminds me of the following hadith;

“The Prophet sallahu alayhi wasallam was asked, “What deeds are loved most by Allah?” He said, “The most regular constant deeds even though they may be few.” He added, “Don’t take upon yourselves, except the deeds which are within your ability” [Sahih Al-Bukhari].

SubhanAllah (Glory Be to God). Two things we can learn from this hadith are to keep at it and to never give up! 

I would also like to highlight the point of doing things within your ability. This is so important because I’ve seen people setting goals/tasks that are completely out of their ability. For example setting up a brand new business and wanting to become a millionaire overnight (honestly people have told me this).

I really admire their ambition and that kind of ambition is amazing to have. But the problem is the goal that’s been set. Unless you know another millionaire than can lend you a million pounds (dollars for my American readers), then it’s nearly impossible to set up a business and become a millionaire overnight (If you’ve made a million pounds/dollars overnight then please comment below with how you did it).

One book that really helped me develop good habits is 7 habits of highly successful people. (affiliate link).

I highly recommend this book! Stephen Covey teaches you how to be proactive, rather than reactive, to your circumstances and really makes you think outside the box of your comfort zone. (If you enjoy listening then you can downloaded them here). Just by reading this book, I kicked the good old habit of procrastination and joined the ‘fulfilled life’ bandwagon. And I’ve never looked back.


Do it for yourself

This is probably the most important part of change; doing it for yourself. A lot of people set goals to compete, or to be praised or envied. They announce on social media that they’re going to do something, hoping for people’s approval and likes. And when things don’t go the way as planned, guess what happens? Feelings of shame and embarrassment ensue.

I’m not saying don’t do it for the haters, but what I am saying is if your confidence is already low then feeling embarassed over failure, is most likely to make self-esteem issues even worse. You’ll just end up becoming more paranoid and assume that people are talking about you, and then this starts a vicious cycle of jealousy and resentfulness over other people’s success, begins.

Trust me, I’ve been there. I’ve scrolled through Instagram and Facebook wishing my life was like those on the other end of that photo. But only when I started doing things to feel more fulfilled, did I no longer care who liked me, who followed me and whether anyone got my vibe. I began loving myself and no-one could match my wavelength. And that’s where you need to be, if you want to achieve your dreams/goals.

To end, I like this quote;

Set some goals. Stay quiet about them Smash the hell out of them. Clap for your damn self!


I hope you enjoyed reading this post. What do you find most difficult when committing to a goal? Comment below.

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